It doesn't count if you throw the steaks on the grill while she prepares everything else. It doesn't count if she has to pick out the menu or do the shopping. And it certainly doesn't count if she ends clearing the table and washing the dishes. If you really want to earn the extra point you need to take care of everything. A little surprise doesn't hurt either. So plan it all out and be prepared to do everything.
Now, what are you going to fix. This is the tough part because it also doesn't count if it's your favorite dish. I want you to think long and hard about her eating habits and particularly what she orders at a restaurant when she isn't getting a salad. And by a restaurant I'm not talking about the kind the serves breakfast 24 hours a day. If you either haven't known her long enough or you weren't paying attention then you're going to have to make an educated guess. Okay, who am I kidding, a stab in the dark.
If you really are grasping at straws then think this way; meat, fish or fowl. On the meat side I'm going to suggest either the classic steak or perhaps some lamb chops. If you really want to go the extra mile and have the skills to do it, try a rack of lamb. On the fish front it is hard to go wrong. You might want to try some simple halibut, fish wrapped in leaves or seafood. For fowl try game hens or a rotisserie chicken. Remember, when planning a meal always start with the main course.
There are a couple more rules to follow. Don't present her with a gigantic steak if she tends towards a small appetite. You want her to be able to leave a little back while still getting a good meal, but you don't want her trying to stuff herself with more then she can handle. Portion size should be a little more than a person can eat so they don't feel obligated to overeat. And, of course, you are going to want to serve a complete meal. This means vegetables. I know, if you are like me then vegetables are put on the plate as a garnish. But most women I know actually like the stuff, so pick her favorite and cook it simply. You don't need to go overboard on the vegetables but they should at least be palatable. I like asparagus because it is easy and as long as you don't overcook it, it's great. You can soak asparagus in cold water for 30 minutes then throw it on the grill until it just starts to soften. Asparagus should have a little crunch to it but still be cooked through. If shes not big on asparagus I have a lot more recipes you can try.
To finish off the meal try starting with a small salad or perhaps some shrimp on ice. These are simple to prepare and always appreciated. You can put these together hours in advance and not have to worry about them later. Finish off the meal with dessert. While chocolate is of course the dessert of choice something that is light and refreshing will put her in a mood for something other than a nap.
Once you have the menu planned out and have been to the store it's time to plan it all out. Since you are the one doing the dishes you want to have as few as possible for after the meal. So what you want to do is prepare everything in advance except those things you are cooking. Marinate the main course in a resealable plastic bag and wash any dishes before hand. Prepare salads, shrimp cocktails or any other cold dish in advance and place it in the dish you are going to serve it in. Put some plastic wrap over it and put in the refrigerator. Depending on your dessert you can probably do the same. This leaves you with almost no dishes to wash but the serving dishes.
Remember the first rule of treating anyone to a great meal. All they have to do is enjoy it. The second rule is to make is look easy. The secret is to prepare everything in advance and know exactly what you need to do to get the meal to the table. I find that a small 3 by 5 card with basic instructions to be invaluable. You certainly don't want to forget anything. So plan it all out well in advance and good luck.
